I recently had a conversation with a friend about self-improvement and all that it entails, from the mind to the body to the soul. No matter what third of the trifecta you’re talking about, there is always room to improve, or so goes my perception of what growth and change look like.

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My friend—a person who I respect highly above others—is an individual who had tussled with ideologies surrounding identity, fulfillment, and progress, and while our views aline more times than not, the topic of self-improvement had always been a debate between is (healthy argument of course).
The basis of any and all introspection and our wants to change who we are derive, from my opinion, from the understanding that we can become better, that we can improve in all facets of life based on the idea that what we’re doing can be viewed as not enough. I like—more like love— to think that anyone and everyone can transform and become the person they want to be. The only true enemy in life is ourselves, with ruminating minds and hunger to be something other than what we are. In essence, I think that we have the power to shape our own reality through hard work and proper effort. To each’s own, of course.
My friend believes that all of us are born complete and that we are all good enough. This is not to say that the homeless man on the corner is perfect, nor the narcissistic CEO on the other end of the spectrum. This thought that we are all complete is supposed to act as the basis, or bedrock, of our lives. If you seek to improve, do so not to become someone else, but to flex your muscles, move your mind and body.
In this view improvement does not mean becoming a better version of yourself, it means to fulfill what you already are.

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I had never thought about this point of view thanks to the lifestyle that I lived (and live) growing up. My assumption and opinion say that wanting to be better is not inherently bad. In some way, I do think that we’re complete in that we have the TOOLS to become more; we have what we need to change. However, in some instances, humans make the choice to inhibit their growth. We can blame biological dispositions or even environmental ones, or we can overcome ourselves and practice better lifestyles through habit and correct thought processes.

We’re both correct. I know this because both of out foundations have proved to hold strong beneath the pressure of our lives. It makes me wonder what other people’s foundations are, what their ideas are about themselves and their own self-improvement.
If there is anything that I know about self-improvement, it’s that others hate to see YOU succeed. This is an entirely separate topic in itself, one that I intend to delve into at some point.

– Logan –

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